This took place about a month ago. I normally don’t get too nervous on dates; I don’t see the point in getting worked up over them. This was the exception to the rule. My nerves however were not because of the guy I was meeting, but due to the fact he did not know that I was ill. It was the first time I had agreed to a date without informing the guy beforehand that I am a walking talking accident waiting to happen.
We got off to a great start, sipping cocktails in my favourite bar. The conversation was flowing with ease, we laughed a lot and the odd pause was comfortable. Two hours in I found myself still unable to switch off to the fact he was unaware of my bodies failings. Several drinks later I finally worked up the courage to bring the topic to the table. My words were rushed as I stumbled over a brief synopsis of my conditions, my nerves reaching their peak.
His body language said it all, it was in complete contrast to his words. As I fumbled with my explanation he quickly went from leaning towards me holding my hand, to sitting bolt upright with his hands tightly folded in his lap. I pushed his posture from my mind, telling myself it was probably just due to the slightly uncomfortable nature of the wooden benches we were perched on. A ridiculous thought I know, but it was an easier one to deal with. He muttered a brief acceptance, waving his hands around, reassuring me that it didn’t matter what I had going wrong.
Minutes later, during the first awkward pause of the night, he downed the rest of his drink. Jumping up from the bench, offering to buy another round, he strode off before I could answer. I glanced down into my still half full cocktail, refusing to turn around and watch what I knew was taking place. I may be hopeless at dating but I’m not a fool. Knowing he was rushing out the door I didn’t want to humiliate myself by watching it slam behind him. This isn’t a common reaction, most pretend to be fine with it before cutting off contact, however this is not the first time its has happened. My options where quite obvious I could leave now and head home or I could finish my cocktail alone.
I love cocktails so naturally I stayed and finished it. It may have been an awful date, but hey, why waste a good drink.
What happened next?
I haven’t spoke to him since. Its been silence on both sides which I think is a good thing. You live and move on 🙂
I went onto a disabled dating site meet a really nice guy but he dumped me at Easter and I’m still in love with him but trying to more on
I’m really sorry to hear that. You’re doing the right thing trying to move on, I’m sure when you are least expecting it you will find someone wonderful.
Thanks, maybe u should tell ur date that u have dystonia
I did during the date. From now I’ll stick to my usual tacit of telling them beforehand
Yeah coz they can google it and find out more about it
He is a loser. No manners at all
Luckily you found out on the first date
I agree; very lucky to find out on the first date
What a pig. I am sorry Rebecca but your maturity and decency speaks for itself
Thank-you x
You are so beautiful. Inside and out. Thank you for sharing your own experience with the world. You are opening dialogues every time.
;YOUR RIGHT???WHY WASTE A GOOD DRINK IHAVE BEEN FIGHTING THIS FOR YEARS AND I THINK YOU’RE HANDLING WELL I’ BE PRAYING FOR YOU DOES VALIUM HELP YOU AT ALL I WAS JUST WONDERING, I’M GOING TO RESUME MY BOTOX SHOTS IT’S BEEN A YEAR WITHOUT THEM I HOPE THE IMMUNNITY IS GONE HANG IN THERE